July 22, 2020

How to Initiate Change In Your Life

So you'd stopped allowing yourself to self-sabotage. Now what? What comes next?

Living the life you want takes a lot of thought, time and patience. And time and patience or some things we just don't have (or I know I don't at least).

A few days ago, I was cleaning out my closet. Occasionally when I do this, I check the space behind my dresser with a flashlight to make sure nothing important has fallen behind. It's been awhile since I did it last so I opened my flashlight app on my phone and took a peek. I was surprised to see an old journal had fallen back there. Forgetting I even owned that beautiful Kate Spade journal, I was excited to find it. After pulling the journal out and flipping through it to see if it was blank, I found a few journal entries in there that I had to read. 

July 17, 2018 was the first dated entry. Only a few days after my late mother-in-law, Deb had been buried. I began reading through each entry to find a common theme. Scared, lost, needing direction, and questioning everything in my life. 

"There has to be more to life than this..."

For more than two years, I have been feeling this way. And what shocked me the most is I still felt all the same things now except tenfold. With Tim's death (something I still plan to share and address here at the right time), I've really come into a place where I don't want to be patient any longer. I feel I've served my time. I've waited, and tried to live the cookie cutter path set forth by my previous generations. And it's time for me to go now.

So what do you do when it's time to go? You set the stage. 

How to Initiate Change In Your Life

Take time to really consider what it is in your life you want. Ask yourself what it will take for you to feel fulfilled, happy, successful. Tell yourself you will have these things.

Outline Your Dream Life
In this dream life, what are the different aspects that make up your world? Where do you live? What do you do for a living? What does your day look like? Who is in your life? How do you FEEL?

Create an Action Plan
In each of those items that make up your Dream Life, what is one action item you need to take to get closer to that dream? Is your dream to own a home? Then you might need to model a homeowner budget to see if you are ready to take that step. Or maybe you are ready to contact a mortgage broker to get pre-approval for a loan. Whatever it is, write it down. If you don't write it down, you will lose sight. I prefer writing everything down in a journal. But if you prefer to go paperless, the Mindly app is a great tool for mind-mapping and setting tasks/notes for specific aspects of your life.

My timeline is 12 months. In 12 months, I will change my entire life. I will be on the path forward to living the life I want and deserve. By July 2021, I will be financially sound to not feel stressed at the topic of budgets and bills. I will be in love with the life I have created for myself. 

Someone asked me, "what happens if you fail, is there a backup plan?" No. There is no backup plan. Because I am not allowing myself to quit going after what I want anymore. Changing your mind to match your desires sets the right intentions. Failure doesn't need to mean "it's over." It means it's time to redirect my attention to another way of doing things. The end goal remains the same...
Find your WHY.

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